- I came to a realization this week....Matt has given up his "back-up income" security for me to stay at home with our babies. As I read about how deeply rooted the need for the man to be the "provider" of the home is and how scared he is to fail at that--it really made me appreciate that security sacrifice that he is making for us!
- A big focus was on how important it is for us wives to affirm our husbands! They need to know that we honestly appreciate their efforts and are proud of them. We also talked about how important it is to focus on the "praise-worthy" characters of your spouse. Philippians 4:8 says "Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable--if there is any moral excellence and if there is any praise--DWELL ON THESE THINGS." We also made a list of praise-worthy traits of our hubby's to help us focus on those qualities. I have a good hubby so that was easy!
- Another good point was that home needs to be the "safety zone"...your husband needs to know that no matter what is happening at work or in his life, that you are in his corner (so to speak) to support him and back him up.
- I would also like to note that we talked about things that get in our way of loving our husbands in this way...and for many...it pretty much boils down to....selfishness. He isn't doing these things for me...why should I do them for him?? I think what we should remember is that God recognizes your sacrifice and your selflessness and blesses it.
So, all in all, this study is going great. Matt and I have a great marriage but it is still IMPROVING it and making it better. I have been expressing to him every day things that I appreciate or reasons I am proud of him. It is funny and awkward at times but I can tell he likes it. I also make sure that when I talk to others about him, I speak of him in a positive manner. The challenge this week is to try and ease the burden of being the provider a little bit. I am making a tight budget and sticking to it.