Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
1. How is it already Tuesday again?? This past week has flown by!!
2. I saw this on twitter and then our pastor mentioned this quote again last Sunday. "The grass is greener...........where you water it."--Rick Warren Seriously, this quote could be used in marriage, in friendship, in prioritizing, etc. I can't tell you how many times it has popped into my head the past few weeks-usually to convict me about some aspect of my attitude.
3. My biggest struggle is balance. I don't feel like I can successfully budget, coupon, keep the house clean, work out regularly, menu plan and cook daily, and spend adequate quality time with my husband and children. (Oh yeah, or blog consistently.) I feel like I can only do 3 of the above at a time. Oh sure I have a rare week every here and there when I am rocking it and get all of it done. But it is an exception and definitely not the rule. This is really just a confession so that I stay "true" in where I am at in my life right now. I am praying about it and hope to be able to testify to God's glory one day that I have made major progress...but that is where I am at right now.
4. At bible study today there was a "marriage panel" of women that had been married 30 years or more and I thought I would some of the answers that spoke to me.
What do you think the two most important things in a healthy marriage are?
- Respect. (Many recommendations for reading Love and Respect--said it is marriage changing...I put it on our "next" list.)
- Be intentional. When life gets crazy it is easy for quality time (or whatever love language you/your spouse are) to take a back seat...in these times it is especially important to be intentional. (That last sentence is really me paraphrasing what I got out of this point today.)
- One of the ladies said Billy Graham's wife always said the key to a successful marriage is "two people that have learned to forgive".
What are some things that have been challenges in your marriage?
- Overcommitment--she said that she would often over-commit with doing "good things" but with doing so many that her husband and children weren't the priority and that when faced with the choice to not choose good over best. In other words, choose what is best for your family. That doesn't mean to not do any good things. This is one I struggle with because sometimes I have signed us up for too many "good" things and then other times I have not been wise with my time management and therefore feel overcomitted when really if I was being wise with my time management we could do all of our things without being overcomitted. See my dilemma? (:
- Lift up any issue you are having in prayer.
What is some advice for when you just aren't "feeling it" (the "in loveness feeling")
- Remember that your commitment is to God first and then your spouse.
- Remember you are a team with your spouse and he/she is not the enemy. The enemy is Satan.
- Grace--give grace to your spouse just as you want he/she to give you grace. In the moments where you just don't feel like it, CHOOSE to show love to your spouse. Again, lift that issue up to God in prayer and ask Him to help!
Healthy tips to keep marriage fresh (and favorite marriage verses):
- Date night (Proverbs 24:3-4)
- Do "sweet-nothings" for each other (Ephesians 5:31-32)
- Something just between the two of you. Example hide love notes in random spots for each other to find...they had a special word that the note would say that was just between them. (2 Corinthians 1:20)
- Ask your spouse, "How can I pray for you today?"
So this week is pretty random but that is just a few things that have been on my mind lately that I am trying to use to grow!
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Matthew 7:3 "And why worry about a speck in your friend's eye when you have a log in your own?" How can you think of saying to your friend, 'Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,' when you can't see past the log in your own eye?"
I had heard this verse before...and it has spoke to me and convicted me before today. But today we were talking about marriage...and using this verse in regards to your spouse. (I.e. Why worry about a speck in your husband's eye, Sara, when you have a log in your own eye??) Oiy! Sometimes it is a love/hate relationship with the sting of conviction!!! Ha. Funny. But true.
The truth is lately we have been crazy busy. We haven't stayed on schedule and by the time we get the kids to bed (late!)-we have been so tired that we either fall asleep right away or just lay and zone out watching tv until we are ready to fall asleep. The house was becoming a place of chaos because we didn't have the energy to clean anything that wasn't necessary and we were pretty much surviving on just doing what HAD to be done. If it could be procrastinated...it was. When the house gets chaotic, my mood gets grumpy. Also when the house gets chaotic, the kids become more challenging (i.e. getting into everything that is out but that they are not supposed to be into.) (Hang with me-there is a point. I am not just confessing here. (c:)
Matt and I had not really gotten to spend any quality time together either. I started to get irritated with him. Why wasn't he helping around the house? Why wasn't he making quality time a priority? Why was he? Why was he? Why was he???
Saturday we sat down to do a chapter together in Sacred Marriage: What if God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy ...and I was getting my loooonnnng overdue quality time that I was so excited about(!!!) and I....
FELL ASLEEP while Matt was reading!!!
That is when I realized that HE was NEVER the problem. It had been ME the whole time. I had packed our schedule so full that we were not being left with any time or energy. Neither one of us. I had not been cleaning either. I couldn't even stay awake for the quality time I wanted so desperately. Had I just looked at the log in my own eye first and removed it...I would have saved myself a lot of misplaced frustration!!
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
On Saturday we had Lilly and Reid's birthday party. A "Beach" birthday party to be more specific. Matt and I wanted to have just a big pile of sand for the kids to play with/on/in. But when we went to Wal-Mart to check sand prices we realized sand was more expensive than either one of us thought...almost $3 per bag. Per little bag. At that cost we may have been able to get enough sand to fill up a kiddie pool.
Matt mentioned that it might be much cheaper to just have a truck load delivered to the house. He said he noticed that the builder got sand delivered to our neighborhood all the time. So I emailed the builder just to see how much it costs to have a truck load delivered. Our builder emailed us back and told us the price but also said that if we were just wanting it for the party...
he would have his sand delivered to our yard for the party and then come and get it after the party and use it for his houses. It gets better...for FREE!!! PRAISE THE LORD FROM WHOM ALL BLESSINGS FLOW!!!! This is the sandpile that was in our yard Saturday for our beach party and the kids had a BLAST! Please join me this week in praying for blessings for our awesome builder and his family!!
The second way the Lord chose to provide a blessing for us was by giving us perfect weather for our party. Everything was planned for OUTSIDE. The sand, the pools, the pinata, etc. etc. etc. I chose not to even look at the forecast all week long and just prayed for good weather. Saturday morning it was raining and I just kept saying, "It won't be for the party. I have been praying for good weather for weeks!" And the Lord answered my prayer and gave us great weather for the party.
So there you have it...not only does God provide for your needs...he also blesses us with our wants. (:
Thursday, September 8, 2011
You are full of energy. You never think it is nap time or bed time. You always say, "No. We still have ONE more Dora." You still nap for at least 2 hours and sleep at least 12 hours at night.
I still have a whole post to write on this...but you are potty trained!! You have been since the week after the 4th of July and you have done so great!! You still sleep in your crib and if I can help it you will continue to do so until kindergarten. I can't help it. It is your LAST baby thing!! In all honesty you can get out of your crib by yourself now anyway and you are probably ready for a "big girl" bed...but I just don't like the sound of that. (:
Lilly we love you so much and are so very proud of you. You have such a sweet spirit and we just delight in you! We have enjoyed these 3 years and are so thankful for them and can't wait to see what this year has in store for us! Love, Mommy and Daddy